[90後] 謝謝那些給予和沒有一定要怎樣的路
I love you
because you makes me
who I am.
其實反思之後，就三件事情在反覆咀嚼，文稍長。
尊重每個人的價值觀，
沒有所謂的對錯，只是看事物的角度不同。
沒有完全相同的人，這意味著，每個人的思維都不一樣，都是獨特的。
因為文化背景和價值系統的相異，使得每個人都選擇了自己的角度去看事物，
個人主義和集體主義的拉扯，其實會提醒很多事情，
如果時間到了，你發現你的夥伴還沒出門，你會留下來等待還是直接離開？
如果在討論的過程中，你充滿想法，但周圍一片靜默，你願意說出來嗎？
如果發現了缺失，你會為了團隊和諧而沉默，還是在眾人面前指出缺失？
以上沒有對錯，沒有所謂的標準答案，只是立場不同罷了。
一開始面對迥異的觀點，很直接的感受是防備，因為你覺得自己被攻擊，
但事實上，兩個價值系統的牴觸不等於兩造的針鋒相對，
你會漸漸知道立場形成的原因，並知道其實兩邊都在為最後的理念努力，只是方法不同。
人和人相處久了，很難不戴有色眼鏡去看待這個人所做的一切，
把事
對人
自然也忘了，這個人其實沒
一開始忽略這件事
多看人們好的那面吧，美好的事情遠超過自己想像。
I love you because you makes me who I am.
人生沒有既定道路，
也沒有一定要怎樣才是成功或完整。
從小被灌輸或是這個社會多半的觀念是從進入學校後，要一步一步往上爬，
爬到某個位階之後，有機會拿到一張入場券，告訴你你屬於某個工作，
接著接婚生子，人生一路順遂圓滿，這是他們對於成功的定義。
但這些路途其實一直都只有自己，只看得見自己的前進。
功成名就沒什麼不好，每個人有詮釋自己人生的方式，
只是在步伐緊湊的狀況下，我們往往錯失了很多風景和選擇的契機。
這一路上會有很多的機會，但不抓住，它就不會進入你的選擇領域，
成為你書寫故事的環節之一。
如果不能做真實的自己，選擇活在別人的眼裡，
那要如何改變自己？更遑論嚷嚷著夢想與目標。
正因為你為你的玫瑰花費了時間，這才使你的玫瑰變得如此重要。
正因為你為你的人生投注了熱情，這才使得你成為有故事的人，
那未必是成功未必是完滿，但你不會感到遺憾，
在這充滿太多意料之外，以及無法預期的狀況下，
來到世上的這遭可以走得如此精彩，如此不凡與獨特。
請誠實，並心存感謝。
請誠實面對自己的恐懼和猜疑，也請誠實面對自己的缺陷，
每個人都很努力在成為一個圓，透過另一些人的支持與互補。
請誠實面對自己心裡的聲音，你往往值得更好的，別駐足在現下的確幸，
讓路走得長遠的方法，沒有一定，只是在誠實面對過程中，
不斷修正並調整出適合自己的方式。
沒有關心是必須，也沒有鼓勵是一定，眼中的理所當然往往不是那麼回事。
請心存感謝，沒有人一定要為你做些什麼，也沒有人一定要站在你的鞋裡。
你所得到的，一直都是另一些人的失去，
回想閉幕的時候，看到過去和自己相處的這些人們，仍然用他們的方式，
讓熱情和熱血不斷流傳，三年前的信念如今不變，甚至讓更多的人們也跟著茁壯，
謝謝你們提醒與教會的相信，是如此簡單與可貴，
所謂的領導力不是台上的洋洋灑灑，其實就只是信念的延續與發揚。
生活如此美好，即便順遂與波折共存，
有時太過認真，會忘記事情沒那麼複雜，
沉默往往是對話中最具意義的部分，
就像人需要杯空，言語無需過多。
(The following part is English version.)
Go through AIESEC IC 2014 in Taiwan,
the reflection actually focus on three points,
hmm, it will be sort of long.
Respect the value of everyone,
there's no absolutely wrong or right, just depend on your perspective.
There's no people looks the same, which means, the different mindset of each people, everyone is unique. Because of the difference of background and value system, people choose their positioning to see this world. The struggle between individualism and collectivism will remind you so many things.
If time's up, you find that your teammate doesn't get ready, will you stay or leave?
When discussing, if you have so many thoughts but the people around you are so silent, will you speak out your opinion?
If you find there's something wrong, will you point out it or keep quiet to maintain the atmosphere of your team?
There's no wrong or right, no standard answer, only the different thoughts, different perspective. At the beginning, when facing the challenge or different opinion, the direct feeling will be offensive, but in fact, the variant value system is NOT equal to be tit for tat between two sides. You will understand something behind the perspective step by step, and know that all of us strive for the same aim goal just using different way.
When get along with the other people for a ling time, it's really difficult to evaluate what they've done by your own glass, and blame people for the result. But they forget that the element which influence issue includes internal and external parts. Taking it personal, as time passes, you will become more and more biased, and naturally forget that this guy is not so bad. And you are really so bad that limit yourself to see the whole world. If you forget this at the beginning, finally you'll also forget to look at the bright side.
See the bright side of people, the wonderful things are always much more then you know.
I love you because you makes me who I am.
There's no fixed road of life,
and the definition of success and complete is flexible.
We are inculcate you have to strive for better positioning since childhood and this society also teach you this kind of mindset. When you get the positioning, you will get the chance to some job which they think belongs to you, then get married and have your own family. Your life is successful like this example, this is how they define people's success.
But actually there will be only yourself in this kind of path, you only see your own development. It's okay to be successful and famous, every individual has their way to explain their life. However we always lose so many the chance of choice and beautiful view in our life, when time is so tight. There will be many many chance on your path, if you do not seize them, they won't become your choices, and the segments of your story.
If you cannot be yourself, choose to live in other's perspective,
how can you change yourself? Even not to mention about your dream and goal.
It is the time you waste on your rose that makes your rose so important.
It is the passion you put into your life that makes you become an individual with stories.
There nay not be successful or completed, but you won't feel sorry in this situation which is always full of unexpected things, your life can be so brilliant and unique in this world.
Being honest, and grateful.
Plez be honest to your fear and doubts, and be honest to your weakness. Everyone try to become a circle through the other's support and complements. Plez be honest to the voice within, you always deserve the better one, don't stick in current little happiness. There's no absolute methodology to let you walk so far, only be honest to face the problems in the process and revise it into a better one.
No caring is demand, and no encourage must be given, what you take it for granted is not always the same as you think of it. Plez be grateful, no one must do something for you, no one must stand in your shoes. What you've got is another one's loss.
Think of the closing of IC, seeing the people who have led you before, they still use their way to make the passion and fervency spread to next generation. Even after three years, the belief is still the same and make more and more people stronger. Thanks for your reminding and teaching, let me understand the belief itself is so simple and valuable.
The leadership is not show-off, but just the lasting and enhance of the belief.
LIFE IS SO GOOD.
though there will be suffering and smooth.
Sometimes you don't need to be too serious to forget the essence of life.
Silence is always the most meaningful part of conversation,
just like people need to empty out themselves, the less words, the better comprehension.
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